<3 such a wonderful gawjus woman <3  / Vicki Gregory (friend from school )
hi there carla its took me a while to write on here as i just didnt really know what to say to u! normally i would be saying hi how are u babe fancy helping me lol :@) well.... i cant really say that anymore can i? i hope the angels are taking care of u up there and im sure ur the most beautiful angel in the heavens!! The first thing i ever noticed about u was that piercing gawjus smile u have!! infact i dont think i ever saw u frown lol...u were soo happy all the time n whenever i felt sad u always made me happy again! i remember when we were in our media lesson and i had to get all my ideas from u as i was sooo thick at that lol...but u always made sure u helped me out!! remember that video we made...what a laugh that was hey? and it got shown to the whole school on our fun day thing lol...(cant remember what they called it lmao) anyway i'll tell u what girl!! there is so many people here that have been destroyed by u goin on this holiday and we think its time for u to come home!! its been waaaaaay to long now!! i want to see that smile again and hear u giggling at the things johnny would say to us!! anyway my little angel... im gettin upset now so im gonna let u get on with ur day..just make sure u keep on smiling for me and watch over all the people who need u right now... we love u always precious one!! vicki xxxxx xxxx xxx xx x Close

To My Beautiful Sister Carla.  / Kerry (Sister)

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not unable to forget, but unwilling  / St. Ebbs (Boyfriend)
The love you gave me I still hold dear,
I share all I can with conviction sincere.
Your light & guidence keeps me strong,
As I feel you watching all along.

You were my goddess in life & nothing has changed.
 I can still feel you holding me, I can still feel your kiss, your touch, I can still hear your voice & it keeps me warm in the coldest of nights =]
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Happy birthday!!  / Hollie Gissing (Old friend )
Hi Carla, a day late but happy 21st =] Wish you could celebrate it. Will come to see you soon with more flowers and funny stories =] Miss you.xx Close

miss you more than ever  / Louis Watkins (Friend)
Two years is a long time to have to live without you, sometimes its ok and i remember that your gone and its ok, but then i have days when i still dont understand why it had to be you, cant imagine what your family must feel.
All i know is, that i came out of my shell because of you, the first time i walked out of that crappy little school you phoned me that night to make sure i was ok, because you were worried, people like you carla dont happen often. There are few people that i can call a true friend but its obvious you were one. Hope you like the flowers, i never was much for flowers but i hope they look nice, picked them all myself :-)

miss you loads

louis
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2 year's on  / Margy &. Dave Whittington (Mum & Dad's very close friends )

It's 2 years on, it's beyond belief.

We make no wonder they're stricken with grief.

Our hearts go out to her Sis, Mum & Dad.

It's not surprising they look so sad.

Just for a drink the driver killed 5 -

The irony is the driver's still alive!!

The world has lost one of the best!

 

 

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Im so sorry  / Daniel Stebbings (Boyfriend)
To My Goddess Carla,
I know for certain you can hear me now & I'm ashamed to have ever doubted you. Looks like your saving my life again just when I'd given up my last piece of hope you've swooped in to give me another chance, I just hope everyone else that loves you can forgive me for being lost for so long.
Eternally yours, all my love,
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To a beautiful young lady  / Hazel Cresswell (mums friend )

Dearest Carla

I have lite a candle for you tonight but i wanted to also pay tribute to a beautiful young lady and to say thank you for watching over little Lily-May Carla for me when she was so poorly, i knew you would be listening to my prayers and taking care of her for me and your mum.

If Lily turns out to be only half the person you are she will be a truly special little girl and will make me the proudest mum ever.

You have touched so many hearts Carla and reading this website tonight after all these months since you left this world, it is easy to see what an amasing person you are and how many lives and hearts you have touched with your beautiful smile.  After only meeting you once i could see how it could lite up a room. 

I also wanted you to say that you mus'nt worry about your mum.  As i'm sure you know already, she is such an inspiration to everyone she knows.  She too is an amasing person, and she has so many friends that love her so much.  Although I will never be able to fill her emptyness, I promise i will always be there for her and will walk with her by her side through her life until she is with you again.

God bless, love Hazel.

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18 months  / Karen Stebbings (Boyfriend's mum )
It's almost 18 months, yet it feels like just yesterday you were sat on the sofa giggling as I tried to do Stebbs mohican - pointing out which bits weren't standing up straight! I still find it hard to believe you won't walk in the door with Danny, lighting up the room with your beautiful smile. You are always in our thoughts and will stay in our hearts forever. Missing you so much, love the 'Stebbs' family x x x Close

Where is the justice?  / Angela Took (Mum)
Hi my beautiful daughter,

What an eventful few weeks we've had!It all began when we heard that the drunk driver who killed you and your friends had appealed against his sentence! He was feeling sorry for himself and thought that his sentence was too long!It seems he forgot that he had drunk eight pints of Lager before getting behind the wheel of a car and killing five people,one of them being you,my precious girl!Hearing this news,after he had only been in prison for four months was absolutely devastating to us.It made me extremely angry,as well as very upset.

We've done everything we can think of,to get our voices heard in this and we've done it all for you my darling because you are not here to be able to fight back youself.We've spoken to the local papers ( who have been brilliant ever since we lost you) and they both printed excellent articles,we've contacted our local MP (who is very aware of the tragedy)and he is looking into it,we contacted the Ministry of Justice,The Attorney General and the Home secretary!I also spent a very emotional afternoon,writing a victim statement,to be read out at the appeal,trying to put into words the effect that losing you has had on our family.

Sadly,all this seems to have been to no avail,as the justice system in this country appears to be on the side of the criminal!Not only does he have the right to appeal (which we dont),but he was granted the appeal,very quickly ( he's only been in prison for five months) and worse still,he had his sentence reduced by two years!Where is the justice in this?? It makes a mockery of our judicial system,when the judges work against each other.The judge who was on duty on the day of his trial,had a very good understanding of all the facts and the severity of what he had done and punished him accordingly, but three judges five months later,apparently disagree with that sentence,even though there is no new evidence! 

Im so sorry darling.We tried so hard to fight this for you.Its all so wrong and everyone we have spoken to about it feels exactly the same.No one can understand why he should have his sentence cut and the general feeling and responses are ones of dismay, disbelief,shock and speechlessness,to name but a few!

We were on the television again yesterday,after they contacted us,as they were so appalled at the result of the appeal.Again,we did our best to get the message across.The judges who altered his sentence obviously have never lost a child.They have no understanding or comprehension of what it does to a loving,caring family like ours.It seems all they care about is that the prisons are overcrowded and they need to get people out,never mind what they have done!What kind of message does this give out to people who drink and drive? It seems its okay to drink over the limit of alcohol,drive a car,kill five people and you will only get a short sentence,which will be reduced if you appeal and the justice system is on your side!

My precious girl,I just had to let you know that we tried the best we could to get justice for the loss of you,but it didnt work.I love you beyond measure and I miss you more than words can say.My life continues the best it can without you in it,but it will never be the same!The void and emptiness left in my heart will never be filled. You were and still are,the most amazing person.Your fantastic traits are endless - loving,caring,thoughtful, kind,affectionate,giving,understanding,sensitive,a good listener,to name only a few.You are my beautiful and amazing eldest daughter and I carry you close in my heart everywhere I go.Love you forever darling.Your still heartbroken Mum xxxxxxxx Close

Forever thinking of you,  / Jonny Kutts (Special Friend )
Hey Carla,
      Its been a while since i posted a comment and thought it was about time. As usual I have been thinking of you everyday and i see it as a good thing. Unfortunately it has been some time since you were among us, it really doesnt seem like a year and a half! After doing some thinking i came to the conclusion that I'm very grateful i think about you all the time, because I know for the rest of my life i will be filled with the memory i hold of you and that can never change. 
      I know people still cant beleive this whole situation and they will never be able to accept it, i am a part of them but if your family somehow manage to put up with the pain they do everyday then i will to. 
      As always my thoughts and prayers rest with you.
      Jonny xxxx 

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missing you  / Aimee Mcavoy (old school friend )
i was packing for uni last week and decided to have a really good sort out and found my t-shirt from woods loke! you signed it from you and your current pet, i think it was a rabbit? 
then i found all my old pics from school, may day and just random pics of miss haire's picnic that miss bryden tried to cancel and it really hurts that i can laugh about that sort of stuff with you anymore as youre not here. its really hard to keep in contact with people when youre not at home and its even harder when your not here to talk to.
i really miss having you around to see all the time
its strange
i dont really like it but i guess we have no choice in the matter.
i hope your family are doing ok i havent seen them for ages but ellen sees kerry sometimes so i guess thats good
im going now cos im feeling a bit down
aimee
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I PASSED...  / Hollie Gissing (Friend for 14 years. )
Carla.....remember when I got sick and couldn't attend school...you used to help me online with my Maths?
And when I came back, I sat next to you in Maths class...you supplied to polos and I supplied the fruit pastels...we had such a giggle and you helped me to understand the work, too...I was always so bad at Maths.
I never knew why...but once we left school I got diagnosed with Discalculus. You weren't teaching me wrong, don't worry =p
When I went to East Norfolk 6th form college...they asked me to re-do Maths with the special needs class and I couldn't do it...not without you there to help me or keep me giggling.
So I didn't....
But the following year...I decided to do it in the end. 
Without the help.
And I was doing it for you...

And this time...I passed.
And I know it's thanks to you =]
I'm going to see your stone on Sunday.
LOVE YOU.
Miss you lots and lots.
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'Happy 20th Birthday Carla'  / Angela Took (Mum)
Hello my darling girl,

                               I just wanted to wish you a very happy 20th Birthday.This is the second birthday that you havent been with us in person to share. It doesn't get any easier,the not having you living with us as part of our family.The void you have left in our lives is indescribable and it has altered us all beyond measure.

                               We took some flowers and a card down to the church today,to find that your stone was already completely covered with lots of beautiful flowers and cards.All your wonderful friends had been there already and not only had they remembered your special day,they had also written you some lovely messages.They have all been fantastic Carla,as Im sure you know.They have been a wonderful support to us all,as we try to adapt to life without you (something we are finding virtually impossible to do).

                             We tried to celebrate for you today and wished you Happy Birthday lots of times.Im sure that you heard us and that you were joining in.How I wish that you were here to run into the room all excited,as you see the presents that are there for you.How I long to hear that infectious laugh and to see that beautiful smile,the one that could light up any room!How I long to talk to you into the early hours of the morning,as we so often used to do.The list is endless Carla,of all the things I would love to do,but will never be able to again.

                             I love you so much and I have a massive hole in my heart that no one can ever fill.I think about you every day and I miss you more than any words could ever say. ' Happy Birthday'  my beautiful daughter. Loads and loads of love from your heartbroken Mum xxxxxxx
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Sending love to the grieving family  / Sue Rhodes (Barnes) (Became mother's friend when Carla 2 days old. )
I have just found out about the terrible tragedy and feel so so sad for Angela, Dave and Kerry. I send them my love and condolences. I have such strong memories of Carla as a baby, i was in the next hospital bed to Carla and Angela for 5 days, 9.9.87 from which followed a valuable friendship for around the next 3 years. Just a few hours before I heard the sad news from my son Luke by phone yesterday I was recounting a story to my two daughters about the day Angela and I left hospital, pushed in wheelchairs by 2 porters carrying our babies in our arms, the porters were both walking as fast as they could almost racing each other while poor Angie and I clung to our babies. I can see from the photos what a lovely young woman Carla grew up into, I am so sorry she has been taken from her families loving mortal arms too soon and hope that the many lovely memories of Carla will bring them strength. xxxxx Close

Sending love to the grieving family  / Sue Rhodes (Barnes) (Became mother's friend when Carla 2 days old. )
I have just found out about the terrible tragedy and feel so so sad for Angela, Dave and Carla. I send them my love and condolences. I have such strong memories of Carla as a baby, i was in the next hospital bed to Carla and Angela for 5 days, 9.9.87 from which followed a valuable friendship for around the next 3 years. Just a few hours before I heard the sad news from my son Luke by phone yesterday I was recounting a story to my two daughters about the day Angela and I left hospital, pushed in wheelchairs by 2 porters carrying our babies in our arms, the porters were both walking as fast as they could almost racing each other while poor Angie and I clung to our babies. I can see from the photos what a lovely young woman Carla grew up into, I am so sorry she has been taken from her families loving mortal arms too soon and hope that the many lovely memories of Carla will bring them strength. xxxxx Close

Miss yew  / Carrie (friend since woods loke )
 Carla

hey hunnie how are yew..??
i hope your oki ..!!
well i cant beleve its been a year
already.!
it hasnt got ne easer at all.!
miss yew loads..!!
i miss our chatts on msn.!
n how ye made me feel better
when i feel out with me bf.!

Carla i miss yew loads n
i speek for every one when 
i say its time to come home now
your holliday have been long
enougth now ..!! plz come home
we all miss yew so much .!!

love yew loads 
miss yew loads 2
take care hunnie
xXx Caz xXx
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Happy Anniversay  / Daniel Stebbings (Boyfriend)
I cant believe its been a year since we started seeing each other,
I think about you everyday & I know you can hear me when i tell you i still love you, i can almost hear you saying it back. Carla you were & continue to be the single greatest thing to ever happen to me & its driving me insane that i cant hold you, kiss you or make you feel safe like i used to. But you are still with me & you do still hear me.
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Missing you  / Louis Watkins (Friend)
My goodness do i miss you, ive needed you alot in the past particularly at school but not as much as i do now, i know uve been looking after your family and other people that were closer to you than i, but i like to think that ur also still here for me, as selfish as that sounds. i wish i could just talk to you, even if its a few words, well there are so many things i wish. My friends are probably sick of me by now...i do mention u alot...not that im obsessed or anything....but what happened hit me really hard as im sure it did with alot of other people. and i know this sounds corny but you know theres that saying that people say, when someone has passed, about how theres a hole left in their hearts, i feel it everyday, and i dont want to, not replace you, cos lets face it that will never happen!! but i dont want that hole to go, not because im a retard or cos i want to remember the pain, but so i have something to keep me going ya know....u never had regretts and i want to live my life that way.
 Im not sure anyone will ever know or get why we got so close, and im glad they dont. You mean more to me than i ever told you, i just want you to know that im greatful for what you did for me.

My life became significantly better for meeting you and knwoing you, and having you be a part of my life....One day i will get to see you again, im telling you now that if it dont i will not be very pleased....if any of this sounded odd to anyone else that reads this..well dont worry, carla will understand. Close

i miss yaoo so much  / Carrie G. (friend)
hey carla 

its been a whyle since i write on here well every day that go by i miss yaoo ive got an old pic of us from woods loke ! i was looking at it the other day !!! :) happy times!!!

 well its that time of year again where yaoo send ya loved ones a card && get them a prezzy well i remember in out pr lessions when we ad that chatt about what to get the bfs lol yaoo had loads of idears but yaoo just wasnt sure what to get him!! we was chattin about dat for ages !! lol !!!

well i guess i better go for now ill chatt to yaoo soon miss yaoo loads carla!! ope yaoo avin a gud time up there 

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